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What’s The Story You Want To Tell?

August 12, 2020

Have you ever thought of your life as a story? Maybe not. It might seem like you’re on auto-pilot, not giving much thought to how your day goes, but it goes by fast. Before you know it you’re married with a couple of kids, working a job you don’t like just to make ends meet. You didn’t finish college, even though you had great hopes of making a difference in this world. Now you’re bogged down with being a solo mom and all weight of getting your children raised rests on you.

Every decision you make becomes a permanent part of your story, so what’s the story you want to tell?

Every decision you make has a consequence, result or an outcome. Thinking ahead to what the consequence would be can save you from regret or even life long consequences.

That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the tension.

You see when you’re faced with a decision to make you will experience a certain amount of tension because decisions are never emotionally neutral. Do you remember when you first saw your husband or boyfriend? Your heart might have started to beat faster. Your palms may have gotten sweaty or you just seemed flustered.

That’s the tension I’m talking about. Your body will give you signs to pay attention to. So often we ignore the tension because we have our heart set on a certain outcome. This is what I call, emotional manipulation. We’ve all done it. We convince ourselves of what we want and ignore our gut feelings.

I’m guilty of not paying attention to the tension in my dating life. To be honest, I know it’s because I want the date to work out. I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life. It already seems like a lifetime of singleness even though I was married for over twenty years. But with each new date I have been liable to give the person too much time because I have ignored the tension. My gut usually knows, I just don’t always pay attention to it. I override it.

So next time you’re faced with a decision ask yourself these two questions before making a decision.

  1. Am I Being Honest With Myself?
  2. What Story Do I want to Tell?

That way you will be more intentional about the story you are living.

Life is a precious gift. Each day has NEW possibilities. It’s never too late to make a different choice. You get to choose how the story goes.

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