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You Were Born Flawless

April 29, 2018

The day you were born you were flawless. That’s as good as it gets. From that day on your body begins aging. I’m not sure at what point it starts for a woman but to be sure, we do suffer from the need to be perfect more than men. Clothes left on the bathroom floor would annoy most women, but not so true for men. Let’s not talk about dirty dishes or their wardrobe.

There are varying degrees of this insatiable need to be perfect. I don’t think I fit the Dictionary.com definition of a perfectionist; a person who demands perfection of himself, herself, or others. Yet I have this nagging feeling I don’t measure up. Maybe this is what drives me to get up at 6 am and go to the gym 5 out of 7 days of the week. The chatter in my head says I need to keep moving to stay healthy but who am I kidding, I want to look like a model. Sound like a trap?

If there are 10 women at the gym in the morning, 2 of which might be in my age range, I, of course, compare myself to the younger, smaller women and wonder how I can get my body to look like theirs. Does anyone else have these thoughts, or am I the only one?

This has been an ongoing saga for me this comparison trap. Our self-worth is in danger here mamas, if we let the world dictate our ability to be loved and accepted. So often our worth is tied to the wrong things like, what size we are, our beauty or if we are in a relationship. These things are all bound to the external, so we are constantly striving to have more of something. If we continue with this thinking it will distract from the energy we need for raising our kids, steal our joy and leave us empty.

As a mom of two young daughters when my husband left our home I was sure it was because I was not enough. Skinny enough, small enough, sexy enough or pretty enough. Now maybe I thought these things because there was infidelity in my marriage. But, I have had a long time to heal and examine myself and I believe these feelings of not enough came with me into my marriage. They were soul wounds. You don’t even know you have them because you can’t see them, but they permeate your entire being. They affect who we believe we are and the story we tell ourselves.

I believe in order to move forward in our purpose in this life it’s essential to address these soul wounds. So we can live and thrive, not merely exist.

You were created in the image of a flawless God. We need to constantly remind ourselves of this fact. Our day to day existence here on planet earth will beat us down if we let it. Remember, it’s your character that makes you, you. Not the car you drive, or clothes you wear or the house you live in, or how perfect your kids are or the grades they get in school.

You will never rise above your level of self-awareness. Self-awareness is the gateway to transformation. It doesn’t guarantee it, but you can’t get there without it.