Mother’s Day Mantra
May 15, 2018
I don’t even think I need to ask you if you remember that day. You know, the day your life changed forever. One day your life was all about you and from the next day on, it was never about you again. I’m talking about the day you became a mom. Whether you birthed, adopted or fostered a child, you now have the most important job ahead of you. This is my Mother’s Day mantra.
We have Anna Jarvis to thank for making Mother’s Day a national holiday. A pioneer for women to be sure. It was her mother that thought someone should dedicate a day to honor mothers. So Anna Jarvis set out to accomplish that task. It started in her hometown of Grafton, West Virginia. This was the birthplace of the first Mother’s Day celebration. In 1914 President Woodrow Wilson signed a bill recognizing Jarvis’ Mother’s day as a national holiday.
While I’m grateful for the recognition one day a year, I don’t depend on the effort taken that day to determine how much I am appreciated. I wonder if any of you mamas also feel this way. Especially, if you are a single mom. With no dad in the home or maybe not even in your child’s life, who is showing your kids how to honor their mom? It can be a touchy situation.
My kids knew the burden that was on me daily. I had to be mom and dad. I was the one enforcing the rules, disciplining them as well as encouraging them and being their cheerleader. When Mother’s Day would come around I didn’t want my kids to feel bad that they didn’t have any money for a gift, card or flowers, so it became just another day.
Every day is Mother’s Day for a single mom! The bond that is built between you and your kids when you’re a single mom is precious. In some ways, we are the lucky moms because there is no other adult in the home to get between or meddle in the relationship you have with your kids.
You may not be happy or have chosen to be a single mom, but trust that God knows what you need. You might be wondering what do I mean by that?
Well, I thought I would be married forever, til death we do part. Only it wasn’t death that parted us. It was poor choices, selfishness and lack of communication to name a few. I thought that my family being torn apart was the worst thing I could have imagined. It certainly wasn’t on my wishlist for Christmas!
If you’re smart, after you’ve dried your eyes, dusted yourself off and stood up you will see that this is all part of the plan.
What, am I crazy? This single mom stuff is hard, it’s no joke, how can I be saying it’s a part of the plan? Whose plan?
God’s plan. There are no accidents in this life. Everything that God allows is for your good, so lean into it. The thing is we don’t always want God’s plan, we want our plan. This is the real struggle. Our own expectations can hold us back from moving forward. We can become stuck.
This is where you have a choice as to how you look at your circumstances. You can allow it to grow you or stunt you. The choice is yours.
I am the woman I am today because the very thing I didn’t want to happen, happened. I took it slow. I had many years left to raise my daughters, during that time I sought out mentors, leaders, and teachers that I could learn from. Many from my church community.
I am not a perfect mom but I am being perfected every day.